Friday Letters and Blogs on Grief, Trauma and Couples

The Room You Were Building

The Room You Were Building

For Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

Oct 21, 2026
Content note: this letter talks about miscarriage, stillbirth and the death of a baby. If you're pregnant and feeling anxious, or you're acutely navigating loss, this one might be better saved for another day. Can...
Inviting Grief to the Table

Inviting Grief to the Table

On making room for grief this Thanksgiving

Oct 9, 2026
Someone clears their throat, and the forks pause over the plates. Maybe there's a grace or a toast, or maybe just someone saying, "Well, everything looks great." The gravy starts its way around the table, and nobody...
Facing Your Pet's Last Days Together

Facing Your Pet's Last Days Together

For couples who don't agree on when it's time

Oct 6, 2026
I'm so sorry you're here. If you're reading this, an animal you both love is near the end, and you and your partner are trying to work out what to do. It's common for two people who love the same animal to see this...
When Guilt Follows the Goodbye (Euthanizing a pet)

When Guilt Follows the Goodbye (Euthanizing a pet)

On the guilt that so often comes after euthanizing a pet

Oct 6, 2026
Some of the hardest grief I know comes after a decision made out of love. Maybe you sat on the floor of the vet's office, or in your own living room, and you said yes. Maybe you'd watched them slow down for months,...
Grieving your Companion

Grieving your Companion

A Gentle Guide for Hard Days

Oct 6, 2026
When an animal dies, the house changes. The sound of them on the floor is gone. Their bowl is still by the door. The walk you took at the same time every morning has nowhere to go. And there's often no funeral. No...
We Are All Grievers

We Are All Grievers

Why I'm writing about grief this season

Oct 2, 2026
Most of us learn about grief the same way. Someone dies, and suddenly there is a word for what we feel. There are rituals, casseroles, cards. People lower their voices. For a little while, the world makes room. And...
When Acceptance Still Hurts

When Acceptance Still Hurts

May 17, 2026
I’m sure you’ve heard yourself say, “I thought I was over this. I had moved on. Why am I stuck here again?” Maybe you’ve heard it from friends, parents, coworkers. Or maybe you’ve said it to yourself a million...